Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses: Questions That Appeal to Their Logic

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I know that I said in my previous post that it would be the last in the series, but I thought of another, and felt compelled to share it.

What triggered my thought was a surprise visit from my Jehovah’s Witness friend, Mark. He showed up unannounced at our door, saying he was in our town for a smog check on his car and some other errands, and thought he’d come by to see how we were doing lately. My mind skittered over the possible real reasons for his visit like a rock being skipped on a glassy lake. Was he there to try to persuade me about one of the JW doctrines? Was he there to challenge one of my pet doctrines? Wanting a debate? Needing more ministry hours for his report card? Or was he lonely and needing a friend? I still don’t know which of these was his motivation. And it doesn’t matter. God brought him to our home. We invited him in at once, explaining that we had just eaten dinner, but he was welcome to some of the food that was left, which he accepted.

The conversation I had with him reminded me that logic is very important to JW’s. Yes, I know that their doctrines are wacky, and many things they say make no logical sense. But that’s the point. Their leaders constantly appeal to logic, presenting their illogical ideas as if they are logical. JW’s love logic. Their whole diatribe against the churches of Christiandom hinges on their argument that our doctrines, such as the Trinity and eternal punishment, are illogical. And some of their doctrines are logically consistent, within their illogical system. Even though they’re so logically illogical, we can leverage their valuing of logic and appeal to their sense of logic. Sharing scripture with them should be our first priority, because it will be more effective than our logic. (It’s God’s Word, duh!) But appealing to their logic can help us gain a lot of traction too.

Here are some examples:

“I’ve read that Jehovah’s Witnesses believe that Jehovah didn’t foresee man’s fall. The explanation given by the Watchtower is that Jehovah chooses what not to know. Can you explain that to me, because to me it’s a logical absurdity. I mean, in order for Jehovah to choose what not to know, he would first have to know everything, to then choose what to un-know. But maybe I’m missing something. Can you explain it to me?”

“The Watchtower has made a lot of doctrinal changes over the years, correcting wrongs and fixing errors. They call it “new light.” So, my question is, do you expect that there will be more “new light” coming in the months and years to come? If that’s the case, then some things they’re teaching right now are wrong and are errors, am I right? What do you do when you find an error in the teachings? To whom do you report it?”

“How is it that Jehovah’s Witnesses claim that they have no leaders, but they also teach that you should respect “those who are taking the lead”? Can you explain to me the difference between “leaders” and “those who are taking the lead?”

“Jehovah’s Witnesses claim that the churches of Christiandom are divided, having no unity, but only confusion. But I got to thinking, what are the doctrines of the churches that JW’s disagree with? Can we list some of them? I think of the Trinity, the deity of Christ, salvation by grace apart from works, all believers going to heaven, eternal soul of man, and eternal punishment (aka hell). These are the teachings that Watchtower says all the churches of Christiandom are teaching. So, aren’t these the things that unite the Christian churches? Aren’t these the things that unify us?”

That last one is the one I sprung on my friend Mark during his visit. He was noticeably affected by it. He had both the lightbulb-coming-on, and the mind-gears-turning looks at the same time. I can tell when something makes him uncomfortable; he laughs it off without actually responding to it. I gave him an “out” too, changing the subject. It doesn’t matter how your JW friend responds to your logical point–they have been presented with it, and will have to wrestle with it internally. Our job is to plant the seeds; the results are up to Jehovah.

How have you appealed to your JW friend/family/acquaintance logically?

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Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses: Questions That Attract Them to Authentic Christianity

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Here’s my final post in my series “Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses.”

(Or is it?┬áIf you have suggestions or ideas for other types of questions you have found effective in discussions with JW’s, please share them in the comments below. Your idea might become my next blog post!)

In this post we’re considering questions that seek to attract JW’s to Authentic Christianity, that is, the real thing. We could also call it Organic Christianity. Or perhaps non-genetically modified Christianity. (Wait–Did I just coin a phrase?) Restorationists (including Jehovah’s Witnesses, Mormons, and Seventh-Day Adventists) claim that Christianity went off the rails soon after the apostles died in what they call The Great Apostacy, and that their particular expression of faith has recently (in the late 1800’s) restored what was lost. We evangelicals contend that the church’s kernel of truth has endured, even though correction was needed in the form of the Reformation, and that the Restorationists are the ones who have gone off the rails.

Boy, do I digress. Anyway, we believe that authentic Christianity has endured, and as Christ’s ambassadors, our calling is to make Jesus and the gospel attractive to unbelievers, which would include religious people who claim to be Christians.

Part of our calling to “make disciples” is to share the real Truth, as found in the Bible (rather than the fake “truth” taught by the Watchtower). And we’re also wanting to make authentic relationships with Jesus and Jehovah attractive to those who are in bondage to high-control religious groups.

With that in mind, what kinds of questions can we ask that will (hopefully) attract Jehovah’s Witnesses to an authentic relationship with Jehovah and Jesus, and the authentic truth of scripture? Rather than just bashing their doctrine, let’s ask ourselves, “What do we have to offer?”

Here are some examples of questions that show them what we have to offer:

  1. “Lately I’ve been learning about adoption in the Bible. I’ve come to learn that I’ve been adopted by Jehovah as his son, and I’m really excited about it. Have you read about that in Romans 8? Can we take a look at that right now?”
  2. “Have you seen the description of the New Covenant in Jeremiah 31, starting at verse 31? Let’s read it together. [Read the verses, or have them read.] That’s fantastic! Don’t you want to be in on that? I am! Can I tell you how that began for me?”
  3. “Did you know that the Bible says we can know for certain whether we have eternal life? Look at this verse (First John 5:13). I’ve come to know, for certain, that I have eternal life. Have you?”
  4. “Are you a citizen of the Kingdom, as described in Ephesians 2 (verse 19)? As a believer, I believe what it says here, that I’m a citizen of the Kingdom. Do you? Or do you go along with Watchtower teaches, that this is only for the anointed class?”

There are many more examples we could use (see my past posts). Please share your favorites in the comments section below!

As you share these with JW’s, keep in mind that no matter what their response, whether favorable to further discussion or off-putting, you have shared the truth of scripture, which will accomplish what God sets it out to accomplish (Isaiah 55:11). And God is at work by his Holy Spirit, drawing people to Jesus (John 6:44). The seeds you sow can sprout and grow unseen below the surface–pray that it may be so!

#AuthenticChristianity

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#NonGeneticallyModifiedChristianity

 

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Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses: Questions that Strengthen Their Commitment to Their Doctrine

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I know, you’re re-reading that headline, trying to make sense of it. I know it’s counter-intuitive, maybe even crazy. Why would we want to strengthen a Jehovah’s Witness’s commitment to their own doctrine? Don’t we want them to be set free from their doctrines? Well, yes, of course we do. But I have a theory that sometimes we, as humans, have to become more strongly bonded to a delusion before we can be set free from it. This is probably not an original theory, and there’s probably a name for the process. If any of my tens of readers know of some psychological or sociological category that fits this concept, let us know.

To help understand what I’m talking about, think about a giant. You know what “they” say: “The bigger they are, the harder they fall.” But maybe what we mean is: “The stronger they are, the harder they fall.”

Ooh! I just thought of the Death Star. Once the rebels were able to find a weak spot, it only took a small charge to destroy the whole thing. (I’m not as much a Star Wars geek as you think. Honest. I’m more of a Lord of the Rings guy. Maybe we need to find the one ring that binds them . . . oh, never mind.)

Back to the giant. If you can make him stiffen up, he’s easier to topple, right? That could be done physically (liquor him up), or even better, by talking him up. Tell the giant how impressive he is. He will straighten up with pride, then you can zing him between the eyes with a sling and a stone. (Yes, I went to David and Goliath. I have a soft spot for Bible stories. Deal with it.) Or you could trip the giant with a comparatively small rope.

So how do we do that with our JW friends? Here’s an example.

Me: Do you know about the Watchtower’s two-class system of believers?

JW: I think so. What do you mean?

Me: You know, that a small group of believers go to heaven, and the larger group goes to paradise on earth? They call them the “anointed class of 144,000” and the “great crowd.”

JW: Oh yes. I look forward to living forever on earth. We’re designed for an earthly existence, so it’s going to be great.

Me: Yeah, but do you know about all the rest of it? About how there are so many blessings, or benefits, that are available in this life now, that are not to be enjoyed by the great crowd?

JW: Like what? We enjoy many benefits.

Me: Yes, they do teach that you get the indirect benefit of having Jesus as your ransom, but that’s about all. There’s also being adopted as sons and daughters of Jehovah, being declared righteous, the assurance of eternal life, being Abraham’s seed, part of the body of Christ, being citizens of the Kingdom, having Jesus as your mediator, being sealed with the Holy Spirit, being in the New Covenant, . . .

JW: Wait, back up. We have Jesus as our mediator.

Me: No, Watchtower teaches that Jesus is the mediator for only the anointed class. You can research that in their “online library,” in the Insight book, under M for Mediator. But right now, tell me, do you really believe that all those benefits are not available to you? You can’t be adopted as Jehovah’s son, and you’re not in the New Covenant? That the 144,000 get all those things, and you don’t? Do all Jehovah’s Witnesses really believe that? Do you believe that?

JW: Why, yes I do. I don’t have a problem with it. It sounds like you have a problem with it.

Me: Yes, I do! I have a big problem with it. Have you looked at the descriptions in the Bible of the New Covenant? Can we look at that together? Here in Jeremiah 31 . . .

You can go many directions from here, talking about your shock that the great crowd believers are being denied these benefits, being forbidden so many blessings. You can describe the two class system as having a first class and a second class group. Or you can focus on just one topic, whether it’s mediator or New Covenant or citizenship in the kingdom, or whatever. The important thing is to get them to commit to their own belief system. They may never have fully done so, specifically. Even if they have been baptized and are the most active of members, they may not be fully committed to the scandalous doctrines, keeping them on a back burner of the mind. By bringing them to a front burner, you’re helping them to recognize how absurd they are. Their response doesn’t matter. Notice in the dialogue above, it seems like the JW is unaffected. But they will be effected. On the outside, they’re putting on a confident show for you. But on the inside they’re asking themselves, “Do I really believe that?” You’re “stiffening the giant,” preparing it for a toppling fall. Their doctrinal giant might not even need a rock to the forehead or a tripwire to the foot–it might come crashing down under its own weight.

Ooh, I’m reminded (as I’m writing this) of the coast redwood trees where I attended college, how their far-reaching but shallow roots required only a small amount of under-erosion for the whole, massive tree to thunderously collapse without any warning. Just one more metaphor making my point. Get your JW friend to fully commit to their absurd doctrine, and it might just help them to see how crazy it really is.

 

 

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Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses: Questions of Authority

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Here’s my next (2nd) post about types of questions that I have found helpful to ask Jehovah’s Witnesses. This category of questioning has to do with authority, that is, questions that get our JW friends to begin to question the authority of their organization and its leaders. For the JW, the governing body of the org has all authority, and I mean all. They wouldn’t admit this, but they treat the governing body as though they were inspired and infallible. The official teaching, as found in their literature, is that the GB is neither inspired nor infallible, and can therefore make errors in their teachings. Your JW friends will be quick to admit this, and will even have some pride about it. They will say something like the following:

JW: “Unlike other churches, we are humble enough to admit when we make mistakes. In fact, on our website, there’s a whole section called “Beliefs Clarified” that lists the corrections that have been made over the years.”

And it’s true. You can find it by going to the “Online Library” and searching for “beliefs clarified.” So in theory, they acknowledge that they are not infallible, and that they make mistakes. But in practice things are very different. While they acknowledge that there were mistakes made in the past that have been corrected, they will not acknowledge that there are any errors in any of the current literature. The double-speak, denial, and cognitive dissonance in this area is astounding. And while that can be frustrating, it can be used to our advantage. Here are some examples.

Me: “I saw the list of ‘beliefs clarified’ on the website. I appreciate when someone in authority can admit when they were wrong. Do you expect that there will be ongoing ‘new light,’ that is, corrections to errors, in the coming years? If so, doesn’t that mean that there are things that are currently being taught that are errors? What do you suppose those errors might be that they are teaching right now?”

Or: “What do you do when you find an error in the current literature? [See my other posts for examples of errors. Or see the myriad examples online.] I hear they admit their errors and make corrections and clarifications. So when you find an error, to whom do you report it? Your local elders? Or do you call the headquarters? Don’t you want those errors to be corrected as soon as possible, so that you can teach the truth to others?”

Or: “I hear that the Watchtower is very strict about what you can and cannot believe. Are you allowed to have your own opinion on anything, like on minor matters, or on matters of conscience? For example, I believe that Yahweh is a more accurate pronunciation of God’s name, rather than Jehovah. If I became a JW, would I be allowed to make it my practice to call God Yahweh instead of Jehovah?”

Or: “I like to think of myself as a Berean, like the folks in Acts 17, who questioned everything. They even questioned what Paul and Silas were teaching, searching the scriptures to see if what they taught was accurate. What do you do when you find something in scripture that contradicts what Watchtower teaches?”

Or: “I read somewhere online that JW’s believe that Jesus came and approved the Watchtower organization in 1914. I’m not finding in the Bible anything about 1914. Can you show me where that is? Where exactly is the year 1914 predicted?”

Or: “I have heard that JW’s believe they’re the only ones in the world that have the truth. Is that right? Can someone have a relationship with Jehovah outside of the Watchtower organization? I find the Bible saying we should come to Jehovah, or come to Jesus. Is there somewhere in the Bible where it says we should come to an organization?”

Then, let them answer, and listen while they give their answer. It matters little how they answer; if they interact with the subject directly, then good. But most likely they will not, and will deflect in some way, whether by changing the subject, clamming up, saying they need to leave, or whatever. Don’t concern yourself with any of this. Reiterate the question if they give you the chance, and perhaps even give them an “out,” saying something like, “It’s certainly worth thinking about, isn’t it?” Or you can ask them to research it further and get back to you. You also have the option of changing the subject before they do, thus maintaining your relationship with them, and allowing the concept to come back to their memory later. In fact, pray that it will bother them later that same day. God can make that happen (and He does, I have stories about that).

So like the bumper sticker says, “Question Authority.” They think you’re questioning Jehovah’s authority, but you’re not. You’re helping them to see the difference between Jehovah’s divine authority and the self-imposed authority of their earthly, human organization. Plant the seed, maintain their friendship, and your job is done until next time.

Next up: Another form of questioning that may shock and surprise you!

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Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses: Factual Questions

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In this series of blog posts, I’m sharing some special categories of questions that can enable us to have longer conversations with Jehovah’s Witnesses. These days their heightened rhetoric about avoiding all conversations with “apostates” and “opposers” causes them to shut down quickly. My goal is to prolong the conversation, and ideally even leave on a friendly note, without them shutting down at all. I have found that certain types of questions help to keep them engaged.

You’ve probably heard of “open” questions requiring more interactive answers, versus “closed” questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” This practice is similar, where we’re trying to use types of questions that avoid triggering the JW to react instinctively (even subconsciously), and pique their interest and encourage them to keep engaged.

My first category of questions for Jehovah’s Witnesses is what I call Factual Questions. These are questions that essentially ask for verification of Jehovah’s Witness doctrine. This appeals to their desire to share their beliefs, to speak with authority, and to be the teacher. The simplest form of this question would be “Do JW’s believe x?” Some examples of these questions are:

“I have heard that Jehovah’s Witnesses believe x. Is that true?”

“I read on the internet that Watchtower teaches that something significant happened in 1914. Is that true?”

“I think I saw a video where JWs are now saying that one generation is actually two overlapping generations. Am I right? How does that work?”

“Someone told me that you have a two-class system of believers. That can’t be right, can it?”

“Is it true that Watchtower teaches that they are the only ones in the whole world who speak for God today?”

When we ask this type of question, we need to be prepared to listen. And we need to be prepared to refrain from interrupting with our witty attacks on their doctrine. We think their beliefs are ridiculous, but we can’t say that outright–they wouldn’t receive it. What we’re trying to do is get them to explain their doctrine, so they hear themselves saying it, and so they begin to hear how ridiculous it sounds to an outsider. Do not interrupt, except to ask for further clarification. Like this:

“So what you’re saying is, the two generations make up one generation? That sounds strange to me, like one plus one equals one. Am I missing something? Help me to understand.”

Then, let them talk again, uninterrupted. Once they finish, then you can offer to show them, not that they’re wrong (even though that’s true), but show them something in the Bible that conflicts with what they shared. Like this:

“Have you seen in the Bible where it says what a generation really is?” (See Job 42:16 for the answer; do the math to get approximately 35 years.)

Once you have shared what the Bible says to be true, you can ask what they think about it; but if they’re at that awkward place where they’re giving non-answers, or repeating themselves, or changing the subject, let it go. Leave it there. You have shared God’s Word, and it will accomplish what God sends it to do (Isaiah 55:11). Allow them to change the subject. Give them an out. Go back to friendly-talk. Once you share God’s word, your mindset should be, “I’m just going to leave that right there.” If you want to say something about it, the best thing to say is, “It’s worth thinking about, isn’t it?” Then move on. Let them think about it on their own. Pray that God would bring the scripture back to their mind later that day (and believe that He will). Let them be uncomfortable with it. A far stronger seed has been planted than any logical argument, no matter how clever and brilliant.

I’m so excited to share three more upcoming blog posts about types of questions to ask JW’s. The next one has to do with the very foundation of their whole world. Yes, it’s that big. And no, it’s not Jehovah.

 

 

 

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Types of Questions to Ask Jehovah’s Witnesses: Introduction

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When I began talking with Jehovah’s Witnesses about 10 years ago, I quickly learned (from advice of others found online, and from my own experience) that the best way to talk with JW’s is to ask them questions. It does little good to simply confront them, even if what we’re confronting them with is the truth. Telling them “The 144,000 are Jewish males who have never been with a woman” will only make them ignore you. Shouting it at them will only make them run away or claim that you’re persecuting them. Asking questions is the way to engage them in dialogue if we hope to engage them for more than 3 minutes.

But even with asking questions, 3 minutes is usually all you get with them before they shut down. I longed to talk with them for longer. How could I keep them engaged in conversation for 5 minutes, or even 10 or 20, or (gasp) an hour? Is it possible?

Well, an hour may be asking for too much. A rare “old school” JW will enjoy debating with you for hours, but most JW’s, like most modern people (including you and me?) are good for about a half hour before we feel like our brain is full.

Anyway, in my years of talking with JW’s, I have learned that certain types of questions are most effective in reaching them; that is, connecting with their hearts and minds (and imaginations) so that they actually want to talk for longer. At least for about half an hour.

My posts to follow this one will discuss four types of questions that I have found to be most helpful. It’s not so much about finding the definitive, mind-blowing question that will cause the collapse of your friend’s whole JW system. It’s about asking something outside of their JW box, something they have never thought about before, which can then be the first thread in the unraveling of the JW sweater. Or the first chink in the JW’s Hoover Dam of doctrine, leading to its collapse. Or the first spark that ignites the Hindenberg . . . okay, you get the idea.

[#metaphorgeek]

So, for the next four posts, I will share with you not so much specific questions to ask your JW friends, but rather the types of questions to ask. (I will be giving examples of each, so I guess I will be sharing specific questions after all. But that’s not the point.) My aim will be to begin with the most obvious type of question, and work toward the least obvious (counter-intuitive) type of question. I have four types of questions in mind, but along the way I may come up with more. Or you may come up with more (please share your thoughts with the rest of us in the comments). Your idea may become my additional post. Don’t worry–I’ll credit you for the idea.

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Recent Jehovah’s Witness Convention: My Observations

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JW Convention at Sacramento. I took this pic myself.

Recently I attended the Jehovah’s Witness convention in Sacramento, CA, with my long-time JW friend “Mark.” Here are my observations.

We only attended one day, Saturday. Even though the convention was for three days, one day is all I can stand, because it’s so excruciatingly boring. (More on that later.) Mark would have gladly attended all three days with me, even though he had already been to all three days last month, during the time assigned to his congregation. Talking with others around us, I could tell that some were less enthusiastic than Mark. Yes, they expressed their delight to be there, that they love convention, etc., but I could read between the lines and see the tell-tale facial expressions. Three days of sitting through talking heads is uncomfortable and wearing, and I got the impression that they felt they had served their time. Mark is a unique individual, more enthusiastic than other JW’s about the teaching, and less enthusiastic than his fellow JW’s about the door-to-door work. He’s more of a thinker, less of a preacher, and therefore more willing to sit through a 3-day convention twice.

They’re using increasingly more video presentations. When I first started attending conventions with Mark, they had live dramas. Those are gone. Now it’s all video, and fairly well-produced videos. The acting is not the best, but the production quality is very good. I’m thinking they’re laying out some big money to a video production company, because I can’t imagine them having the creativity or skills to produce videos of such quality. It seemed like every talk had an accompanying video, and the screen graphics between segments were pretty dynamic too.

There were two talks that were simulcast from the international convention in Arizona. One of the speakers simulcast was Samuel Herd, a member of the governing body. Stand back, here comes a prediction! I predict that within 5 years, the conventions will be simulcast events, with all JW’s worldwide hearing the same talks broadcast from one location. It would save venue costs; they could use their existing kingdom halls and assembly halls rather than renting arenas. I see it coming–consider it a prophecy!

In spite of the new video technology, the day was still boring! They just can’t help it. I find myself comparing the JW convention with the Promise Keepers men’s conferences of old. (Not so old to me; old to anyone under 30.) They were similarly a day filled with speakers, but they broke up the day with some pretty great worship times. And the teaching was so much more interesting (aka not boring), because it was accompanied by the presence of the Holy Spirit and the freedom and encouragement of God’s grace, unlike the discouraging Watchtower system of works. (The difference is like that between outward behavior modification versus behavioral change from within.)

I experienced something strange, which I hadn’t felt before at the 4 or 5 other conventions I have attended. During the morning sessions, I felt a headache coming on, which grew and persisted. When we broke for lunch, I ate and walked around, and felt just fine, so I chalked it up to needing food and water. But then when the afternoon sessions began, the headache returned. I sat a lot with my head in one hand, massaging my skull for relief. I thought my seat-neighbors would wonder what was up with me, but looking around, I saw a number of them fighting sleep, so they probably thought I was doing the same. Once the day was over and we stood up to get ready to leave, my head instantly felt better. So I wonder what was going on. Was I feeling a demonic presence, or is their teaching just personally toxic to me? I don’t know, but I’m concerned about going to convention again. I would be willing to attend again only for the time spent with Mark and others that I meet. I’ll have to come up with a battle plan for the headaches, arming myself with prayer, aspirin, and perhaps a cold compress.

It seems like the Watchtower has given up on specific date-setting, which is a good thing. They probably want to avoid looking foolish to outsiders, and don’t want any more negative PR since their recent bad publicity regarding child abuse. At one point one of the speakers, I think it was brother Herd, said “We’re living at the end of this system of things.” That was as specific as it got. It sounds wild to an outsider, but the JW attendees didn’t bat an eye; I think it’s part of their everyday language. I really think some of them didn’t even notice the statement. I let out an audible “Wow,” but not too loudly.

Hypocrisy abounded in the teaching talks and videos. One example: One talk was titled “Love your neighbor as yourself,” where the admonition was given to “not give up on people easily.” The example given was James the brother of Jesus, who at one time thought Jesus was out of his mind (Matthew 22:39), but later became a disciple of Jesus and led a congregation (First Corinthians 15:7). It was implied that it took several years for James to come around. In practice, however, my experience is having JW’s give up talking with me within about 5 minutes, judging me to not be one of “those rightly disposed for salvation.” Another example was a video where a son tells his father he doesn’t want to go to meetings. The son says “they’re boring.” Dad asks, “Who says they’re boring? Your friends?” The son looks sheepish, and all is resolved when Dad tells the son to get ready for meeting, and they’ll talk about it more afterwards. I wanted to scream. First of all, what friends? JW kids are not allowed to have friends outside the JW bubble. Second, Dad didn’t even consider the possibility that the son was telling the truth, that the meetings were actually boring for him. No, that couldn’t be. And third, what would they discuss later? I imagine that to be a one-way monologue, with Dad directing the conversation, leading the son to agree to the JW mindset that the org is like heaven on earth, even though deep down the son might believe otherwise. The son is essentially trapped into a cognitive dissonance that will maintain the outward appearance of contentment, while his resentment, like an ignored cancer, grows under the surface. When that teenager turns 18, he will be faced with the decision between continuing to play the JW game, or be true to himself and leave his family, who will then shun him as if he were dead. At least if he does decide to leave, he can then meet some actual friends.

I’ve stated before what I say when JW’s ask me whether I’m enjoying the convention. My response is always, “I’m really glad I came.” And it’s true, in spite of my apparent allergic reaction to it, my boredom, and my outrage at their outrageous statements. I am always glad to attend, not because of the convention itself, but for the valuable time spent with Mark and with those that I meet at the convention. Mark and I had an hour each way in the car, and several hours during dinner before heading home. Priceless, and well worth enduring the torture that is the Jehovah’s Witness convention.

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